Feb 6 2016 – Kevin Yaworski – Proud Canadian and Global Citizen – http://wp.me/p1fJaD-aA
Find below some advice on the journey of life, a look at some of my journey in a poem I wrote and what is left to knock off my list
The journey of life can be amazing at times and if one is fortunate can be filled with many choices and ups and downs. One should not forget that hitting a low is an opportunity to grow.
Most of us are students of the school of Hard Knox and those of us with children need to let them attend because these are some of the most valuable lessons and they are often not easily forgotten.
This advice is not new but many of us could use a reminder as we get caught up in our journey and may loose sight of some of the things most important.
On this journey one will come to major forks in the road. Some of these choices may change ones life. They may be easy decisions or may cause one to sit there and dwell for awhile.
The fear of change or choosing the right path can sometimes be very difficult or even paralysing. One must push beyond this to be able to grow and achieve ones goals or dreams. Don’t be afraid or ashamed to ask for help or company along the way.
The paths well travelled are often easier and quicker but may offer less lessons and rewards than the ones less travelled.
Some people come to a fork in this road where they do not like any path and some are strong and have the courage to make a whole new path.
People that do this will often hit more obstacles then those taking a path well travelled and with this risk can come failure or success but either way they often come out stronger or better off in one way or another. Sometimes it takes several tries to make a new path.
These choices can sometimes be scary but can also be inspiring and rewarding.
Some examples of people I know that are taking the road less travelled
I have a few hard working friends and family in different places that are trying to reduce their impact on the environment by being off the energy and infrastructure grids or well on their way there.
I know and been to see a very adventurous and capable man who with the help of only a few is part way through building a ship in NZ to sail to Antarctica.
I know a proud 16 yr old young man in my family that beat the odds with hard work and drive and didn’t let his height, age or what others said he couldn’t do stand in the way of his dreams of playing hockey in the WHL and one day in the NHL.
I know an amazing women who conquered her fear of the unknown and of financial uncertainty and is taking a risk and changing careers after many years to do something she loves.
I know many others that have or are doing what it takes to achieve their dreams or what is important to them and not letting obstacles stand in their way.
I admire them for believing in something so strongly and having their actions speak louder than their words. For challenging fear and the unknown and running with it.
These people inspire me to follow my own dreams and conquer the challenges I see.
Sometimes you will meet someone that you know for a short time or a long time and they help change and enrich your life. I have been fortunate to meet several people like this. One thing that is almost certain is you have to put yourself out there to meet people like this.
Don’t judge people by their cover as it often takes a while to get to know someone properly. Be true to yourself, don’t be afraid to let others get to know you, be patient and you will often be rewarded.
However we go through this journey we must make the time to slow down and enjoy it because before you know it, it could be over.
If you normally drive, try riding a bike or taking a walk or the bus if you can or do something outside your comfort zone. It is amazing what you see when you slow down or what can happen if you push yourself outside your comfort zone.
I have had many “Times of my life” and will continue to have more. Are we ever really too old for these? As we grow older we can still make these happen. They may just be in different forms than when we were younger but can be just as important.
I have recently taken a page out of my past and from my wife, kids and several friends present and started to listen to more music and less talk radio and news. I had forgotten how good music can make you feel if you give it a chance, let it in and how inspiring it can be. Sometimes you have to stop and listen to the words and you will hear the song in a whole new way.
Speaking of journeys, here is some of mine.
I not tell a lie, cross my heart and hope to die, stick a needle in my eye
So far I have
lived in the country on a farm which did me no harm
lived in the city and felt some pity
always worked hard and have baked with lard
milked a cow and had at least 1 big row
harvested at dusk with coyotes eyes or howls nearby
played hockey and walkie talkie
played with toy guns, used real guns and had my ears pulled by the nuns
played in the mud, got stuck in the mud but wouldn’t trade it for none
slept overnight on Grand Beach with a friend and wished for a bed without bugs crawling on my head
adventured somewhere new at night with only moonlight
tried to jump from the sky but could not fly
nearly slid down a huge cliff and was so thankful for a lift
jumped off a large water fall and always try and give it my all
given into lust and lied down in bed without even thinking we were not wed
hurt, cried and tried not to lie
felt alone at times and smothered at times
tried my best but could not rest in the nest
helped bring a light into this world before I knew what to do but know now that we are here to help it shine as I try to make up for lost time
done nothing wrong but locked up with my song and then finger printing but no convicting
been unsure what would happen next and moved far away but continued to pay
lived or travelled many places to explore and learn the local lore but knew inside the light was not right
travelled by foot, bike, raft, horse, motorbike, boat and more
slept in a rental car as well as my own car, my truck, on a ship, train, plane and more.
made many good friends and only a few dead ends
learned to husk green or brown coconuts for milk or flesh with a big knife which may one day save my life
climbed a mango tree and have dived in the sea
spent xmas camping on the beach but mostly with snow at my reach
grown to love 4 seasons for many reasons
been bitten by a bug but didn’t know it was love
moved somewhere new and chased after someone I barely knew.
spent a first night just talking ’til light then a long kiss good bye under the morning sky
spent many nights on the phone then wishing I was not alone
woken with lovely poetry in my head with no way back to bed and knew I had to see them in more than my head
listened to my heart and never felt so alive so then took a chance with some great romance
travelled afar to somewhere new with the one who filled my heart and never wanting to part
made love to the one who holds the key to my heart and cried inside when we had to part
travelled again to sleep on the beach under a star lite sky as the warm breeze blew by
had to part again as they left on a plane but only one more time as I wanted them to be mine
gotten married to the only one, regardless of one in the bun
had one more kid and nearly lost my lid
chosen to love after falling out of love
always been grateful for many good times which has helped me through a few grinds
a promise to keep and life is to short so let’s always court
sat awake by the fire at night till there was light
was very fortunate survive being caught in a riptide before being taught to swim to the side.
skied and boarder on water or snow and fell down below
hiked in the mountains and swam in many fountains
played in the snow with the sun in the sky followed by a swim in the sea as the sun says goodbye
played poker and been broker
geocached, got smashed, had fun and regretted some
been hired, fired and self employed
fixed many things instead of buying new things
gazed at the sky with a powerful eye and wondered why
torn things down and built things up
built something new and also tried home brew
caught, bought and grown my own food and try not to be rude
been bold and showered and took a dip out in the cold
held a huge snake and made many a mistake
learned from an expert guide how to ridethe waves off a rugged west coast with my brave teenage child
tried to be present and listen to the words being said and not the ones in my head
learned that lauguage is powerful when spoken out loud or in our head so use it wisely like to disarm but never to harm
failed miserably and succeeded giddily
tried to look at the bright side instead of the downside
donated my time and made it a past time
been rich and poor, had lust and been bust
said hello, goodbye and nearly died
tried to learn something new from everyone I knew
done many things on my own but many more not alone
guided young eyes as they try and reach for the sky and not only my own as they will all one day need to go out alone
been seeing more and more of my young growing into their own but my first light is struggling to be bright
always held out my hand but to often waited for a reach and now must try harder to get a chance to teach
I was fortunate to have parents, step parents and many family and friends that worked hard and liked to travel. I spent many summers and holidays camping on road trips in Canada or the US and several trips to Mexico. I continued this as a young adult and beyond with my own family and friends including traveling and living overseas.
I have lived in the country, in 5 Cities, on a large island, 2 continents and have visited 9 Canadian Provinces, at least 18 Countries, 22 US states and more cities or towns than I can remember.
– I have lived near Richer MB, in Winnipeg MB, Calgary AB, London UK, Brisbane & Sydney Austrailia
– Visited at least SK, BC, ON, QC, NB, NS and PEI; MA, NY, NJ, FL, CA, TX, OR, WA, ND, SD, MM, CO, IO, ID, MO, WY, WI, IL, ME, VT, NH, HI;
Mexico, NZ (North & South Island), parts of the UK (England, Wales and Scotland), Ireland, Spain, Portugal, France, Italy, Austria, Switzerland, Germany, Netherlands, Belgium, Luxembourg, Liechtenstein and Cyprus
I’d say my bucket is still 3/4’s full and here is what needs to be done for it to have none:
– Once again have some fun with my eldest son
– See fulfillment in my adult children’s eyes and hopefully see little ones eyes
– Start a business again and try my best for success
– Keep my promise to grow old with the only one I have truly loved
– Celebrate an anniversary in the Carribean
– Buy or build at least two electric motorcycles with portable solar charging or hydrogen fuel cells
– Hike down or raft down the Grand Canyon.
– Build and live in a log cabin in the mountains.
– Fishing at Haida Gwaii / Queen Charlotte Islands.
– Surfing and Snow Boarding in the same day.
– Travel to the Yukon and Alaska via the Alaskan marine highway.
– Return to the Canadian east coast to see some of the places I missed including Newfoundland
– Travel to the Artic or Antartic
– Visit Virgin Galactic’s Spaceport
– Visit outer space
– Visit all my close friends and family at least one more time before I die
– Die without regrets and an empty bucket at my side
I love to hear others talk about their journey and what is on their bucket list
Feel free to share this and I hope it can inspire others to share their journey and any lessons they learned along the way as well as follow their dreams whether they are big or small.
My trip to the Grand Canyon might look something like this:
Road Trip to Glen Canyon, Grand Canyon (north rim), Vegas and my 2nd trip to Yellow Stone NP including a hike down into the Grand Canyon (4.5 hrs down, stay night and 8 hrs out), requires being well prepared including permit in advance to say the night.
or instead go down it by rafting (1 or both legs)
or as a last resort fly to Vegas, drive to the Grand Canyon and hike it as mentioned above.
I have some friends and family that showed interest in this one.